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Why do most apologies feel unsatisfactory?Anatomy of an apology
“Do you want me to apologize?” “I am sorry IF I hurt you” “You want me to say sorry? Sorry, now are you happy?” “I am sorry but…” (an...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Apr 23, 20232 min read


Does Going on an expensive vacation help solve deep-rooted issues?
Every time the couple had a fight, one of them would suggest taking a travel trip. “Let us spend time together in a faraway place”,...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Apr 22, 20232 min read


A counsellor is not a mediator, detective, lawyer, or a judge.
When you are in the thick of counselling, it is very easy to get either confused about your role or get drawn into playing a different...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Apr 21, 20233 min read


Does too much get made of getting up early?
“Get up early”, Early to bed, early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise”, “Rise and shine with sunshine” We have heard of the...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Apr 20, 20232 min read


A primer on pet-loving families for those who don’t understand them
Many non-pet lovers find it very very hard to understand the family of pet-lovers. This is a kind of a primer for them. Pets have names...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Apr 18, 20233 min read


Seeking external validation is necessary for us.
“My son is 12 years old and he still seeks validation for his actions from us and friends” “My husband at 40 still asks his elder brother...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Mar 12, 20232 min read


The people we give to and the people we receive from are often different.
“I have helped my sister so many times in my life but she is never there for me when I want it” “This has happened often?” I asked “Yes,...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Feb 26, 20232 min read


Don’t confuse people’s opinions with truth
While the philosophical idea of truth can be debated endlessly without coming to any conclusions, in our real life we need to distinguish...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jan 31, 20232 min read


Surrendering to the strengths of others around us
“I think you missed a turn back there”, said the daughter sitting beside her mom. “No I didn’t” replied the mother, “the turn is further...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jan 14, 20232 min read


Why be embarrassed by the emotions of our loved ones?
It was the gathering of relatives and halfway through it, the father got into an argument with a relative the argument became heated for...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Dec 6, 20222 min read


Allowing seniors to do work at home is important
As parents get older, it is common for children to be concerned for their safety. We don’t want them to lift heavy things, drive on the...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Oct 21, 20222 min read


It is okay to acknowledge some relationships have an expiry date
Relationships between adults are almost always voluntary. It means that the relationships can flourish only when both the people want it,...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Oct 14, 20222 min read


Some questions to ask children when they come from school or when you are introduced to them.
The questions we ask people when we meet them show what we give importance to in their lives. What do we value in other people’s lives?...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Sep 29, 20222 min read


Children calling elders by their first names
Some people are shocked when they hear children in some households call elders by their first names. In most homes, the parents are often...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Sep 24, 20222 min read


The many ways we Indians say, “I love you” without actually saying it
Most psychology books are written by Western authors and these authors only look at the Western culture and assume the rest of the world...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Sep 23, 20223 min read


Should parents discuss the negative aspects of their children with others?
Recently, while sitting in a cafe sipping coffee, could not help but overhear four mothers discussing their children. Three of the...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Aug 22, 20222 min read


Ability to reduce interaction, walk way, cut off a toxic relationship is also relationship success.
Recently during a workshop when talking of how we can be successful at relationship this question came up. Are we successful only when we...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Aug 11, 20222 min read


Do children need to be ‘productive’ all the time?
“Whenever I watch Japanese Anime which I love, my mom says, I am wasting my time. She says, I should watch National Geographic and I...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 28, 20222 min read


I love you but don't want to live with you
“You keep saying you love us” “Of course mom, I love you. I love dad. I will do anything for you people” “Then why is it that you don’t...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 1, 20222 min read


Dependent, Independent or Interdependent?
As children, we are dependent on the adults around us for almost everything. Slowly as the child grows up, the sense of wanting to be...

Sreedhar Mandyam
May 30, 20222 min read
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