We ruminate over other people's behaviour. We do it constantly. It is one of the mind's favourite pastimes. Why did he stop texting me? Why is she ignoring me? Why did my uncle speak to me that way? Why did my friend go quiet after that conversation? The questions circle in our heads like birds that will not land. They circle and circle until we are exhausted. The problem is not the questions. The problem is the answers we invent. Because we do not know the answers. We cannot know the...

We are quick to notice when others cross our boundaries. We feel the sting of disrespect. We feel the weight of being taken for granted. We know when someone has treated us without dignity, without love, without regard for our needs. We speak up. We push back. We defend the line we have drawn. But there is a boundary we rarely notice. It is the boundary we cross ourselves. The line we step over again and again without a second thought. The respect we demand from others, we deny ourselves. The...

We have been taught to fear anger. We have been taught to suppress it, to hide it, to apologize for it. We have been taught that anger is dangerous, that it leads to destruction, that it must be controlled at all costs. But anger is none of these things. Anger is information. It is not instruction. This is a powerful distinction. Anger is a signal. It is a message. It is a flare sent up from the deepest part of us, telling us that something is wrong. Something is being threatened. Something...