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𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐥𝐮𝐞𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐍𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐥.
A child does not learn what is right. A child learns what is normal. And for a child, normal is a simple thing. It is what happens at home. It is the background rhythm of their days, the unspoken rules that govern the people they trust most. They are silent, constant observers, and every action they see is a lesson in what the world is and how one should behave in it. When a parent interrupts another person while they are talking, the child learns that this is normal. They le

Sreedhar Mandyam
Nov 32 min read


𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐋𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐀𝐫𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐖𝐚𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠: 𝐁𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐓𝐨𝐥𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐅𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧.
We live in a world of now. A question appears in our mind, and Google provides an answer now. A hunger pang strikes, and Swiggy delivers...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Oct 103 min read


𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐀𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭 𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧: 𝐍𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐔𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐑𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐫𝐲.
· A milestone is reached. An adult daughter, her own money in hand, buys a beautiful saree, a celebration of her independence and taste....

Sreedhar Mandyam
Oct 93 min read


𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐐𝐮𝐢𝐞𝐭 𝐂𝐮𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐮𝐦: 𝐓𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐑𝐞𝐠𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧.
We instruct them to calm down, to be patient, and to not get so angry. But our lectures are whispers compared to the thunder of our own...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Oct 82 min read


𝐎𝐮𝐫 𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐎𝐮𝐫 𝐑𝐞𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐂𝐚𝐫𝐝𝐬
· When they are young, we carry our children in our arms. Later, as they grow older, we carry them in our worries. Every parent knows...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Sep 182 min read


𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐞𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐒𝐨𝐥𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐁𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐥 𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦𝐬? 𝐋𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 '𝐌𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬'!
Have you noticed how sometimes the key to solving a behavioural problem lies not in focusing on the problem itself, but in those moments...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Mar 212 min read


𝐈𝐬 𝐞𝐱𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐚𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐞
There is a delicate balance between caring for your loved ones and smothering them with overprotection. Can excessive care and protection...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 25, 20242 min read


Teaching loved ones to carry their umbrellas
“I have to enter the kitchen to do something and my wife rushes in asking what I want, what she can do etc. Can’t I do something for...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Aug 1, 20232 min read


Do children need to be ‘productive’ all the time?
“Whenever I watch Japanese Anime which I love, my mom says, I am wasting my time. She says, I should watch National Geographic and I...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 26, 20232 min read


Why be embarrassed by the emotions of our loved ones?
It was the gathering of relatives and halfway through it, the father got into an argument with a relative the argument became heated for...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 21, 20232 min read


Stress is not bad all the time for children
Recently when conversing with a parent, I heard him say, “I don’t want my children to have any kind of stress in their lives.” Many of us...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 30, 20232 min read


Don’t discourage children from playing with informal toys
“I bought him so many toys, but look at that he plays with rocks, empty carton boxes” the dad complained. The child, seven years old was...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 8, 20232 min read


If you are sitting with your child to help prepare for the exams...
As a parent, quite a few people take an active interest in their child’s education, especially during exam time. If as a parent you are...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 5, 20233 min read


Having a ‘chore’ curriculum for children at home.
I grew up with three siblings at home and all the four of us had chores to perform at home from a very young age. It was someone's chore...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 4, 20233 min read


Parents don’t have to make every moment into a teachable moment and blow away happiness.
I was watching a parent read a bedtime story to a child. The child was enjoying the moment as the parent read the story with a lot of...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 1, 20232 min read


Child Sexual Abuse - Don't ignore children's negative talk about adults around them.
Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) is more common than most people acknowledge. Contrary to common belief, both boys and girls are subject to it...

Sreedhar Mandyam
May 21, 20232 min read


How to comfort children when they have nightmares.
Whether children or adults it is possible for everyone to have nightmares. In this context we think of nightmares as bad dreams, dreams...

Sreedhar Mandyam
May 4, 20232 min read


Disciplining children is tough love
The term tough love may seem self-contradictory but it is a reality and has a place in parenting. Parents are authoritative figures in a...

Sreedhar Mandyam
May 2, 20232 min read


Should I send my children abroad for studies?
Some parents are extremely enthusiastic about sending their children abroad for studies. In fact, it may have become a family culture in...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Apr 30, 20233 min read


Sandwiched between two generations
The older generation, those above 65-70 are almost not answerable to anyone or at best they have to account for their behaviour only to...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Apr 29, 20232 min read
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