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Teaching loved ones to carry their umbrellas
“I have to enter the kitchen to do something and my wife rushes in asking what I want, what she can do etc. Can’t I do something for...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Aug 1, 20232 min read


Small keys can open big doors.
What does positive expectancy talk look like? When we have a positive expectancy (the future will be better) our talk is different. The...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 31, 20231 min read


Where is your life in imbalance?
Often time it is good to pause in our life and check where our life is imbalanced. Have we gone off to one extreme? Some areas in our...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 30, 20232 min read


We don’t have to scratch every itch
Take ten minutes to do this exercise. Lie down in a comfortable position on your bed. You will not be moving for ten minutes or so, hence...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 29, 20231 min read


What went well in your life last week?
When clients come into counselling for a repeat session, I ask them this question and the first reaction is to be taken back. They...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 28, 20231 min read


The corrosive practice of constantly criticising family members
“My dad has never seen anything good in me. He constantly keeps saying I am just eating his food and putting on weight. It makes me feel...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 27, 20232 min read


Do children need to be ‘productive’ all the time?
“Whenever I watch Japanese Anime which I love, my mom says, I am wasting my time. She says, I should watch National Geographic and I...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 26, 20232 min read


Ability to reduce interactions, walk way, cut off a toxic relationship is also being successful at relationships
Ability to reduce interactions, walk way, cut off a toxic relationship is also being successful at relationships Recently during a...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 25, 20232 min read


We can miss something/someone but not want it back.
When people talk of missing something like a possession, an experience or a person in their lives we often think they would like to have...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 24, 20231 min read


It is okay to acknowledge some relationships have an expiry date
Relationships between adults are almost always voluntary. It means that the relationships can flourish only when both the people want it,...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 23, 20232 min read


What are your Four-Five stories that keep you awake at night?
Most of us cannot go to sleep because we cannot stop thinking. The body is tired but the brain is active. Being primarily visual...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 22, 20232 min read


Why be embarrassed by the emotions of our loved ones?
It was the gathering of relatives and halfway through it, the father got into an argument with a relative the argument became heated for...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 21, 20232 min read


Is ‘Closure’ another over-used word?
I feel he has not yet had a closure for his dad’s death” “She has not had a closure for her pain from the divorce” “He is yet to get a...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 19, 20231 min read


Our strength can also be our weakness
We can look at our strengths as our personality strengths (I am…), our external resources like our relationships, our possessions, our...
sreedharmandyam7
Jul 18, 20232 min read


Do you want to just speak or do you want to be heard?
The questions confused many people. When we speak, are others not hearing us? That is the doubt running in their minds. There is a lot of...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 17, 20231 min read


Situational awareness - Taking the temperature of the room before opening our mouths.
She entered a room where her friends were sitting and without any preamble said, “I have some happy news for all of you. My dad has got...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 16, 20232 min read


Irrational behaviour can come from Love too not just from Fear and Anger
When we talk of irrational behaviour, we refer to behaviour that is not helpful, that is not useful and may even be harmful for the...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 15, 20232 min read


Idiot compassion Vs Wise compassion
“I have not tasted a sweet dish for months now. My wife is very strict as doctors have prohibited me from touching sugar.” the man told...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 14, 20232 min read


Healthy Anxiety Vs Unhealthy Anxiety
We become anxious when we perceive a threat in our surroundings such as a late-night knock on the door, a menacing stray dog or even...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 13, 20232 min read


Vocabulary for a Counsellor - Sadness
It is important that a counsellor has a good command over different words for emotions. There are many words to describe the sadness and...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 12, 20231 min read
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