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A seed is not an imperfect fruit and a fruit is not a seed reaching perfection.
There are lots of agricultural fields near where I stay and I get to watch farmers at their activity. I thought there is so much common...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 9, 20232 min read


Learning to flow around disruptions
When you are driving on the road to your destination you will get obstacles on the road. A road dug up. A fallen tree covering a part of...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 8, 20232 min read


The successes in life that cannot be measured
When I ask people, adults in their 40s and 50s and beyond if they feel they are successful in life, very few people answer in the...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 7, 20232 min read


Don’t write off people in your life
It is so easy to write off people around us. “She will never complete her education”, “He will never be stable in his life”, “She is...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 6, 20232 min read


The Worry Club - Tongue in cheek
You are invited to the meeting of the Worry Club from 7pm to 8pm on Monday. For this week the agenda is to worry about our children’s...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 5, 20232 min read


Healthy selfishness is a responsibility on you.
Selfishness is always looked down upon. The word has a negative connotation and the moment someone accuses us of being selfish, we...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 4, 20232 min read


The 'Do Nothing' technique to motivate ourselves/others.
There are times when we need to motivate ourselves or others around us. We need to make some decisions but are postponing it endlessly...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 3, 20232 min read


The different shades of a NO
“Dad, can I play a computer game with my friend?” “NO” “You mean, I can’t play computer games with my friend?” “Yes, that is what I...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jul 2, 20232 min read


Enmeshed lives lead to unhappiness
“Mom, my friend called me names in the school and I felt very bad today.” “Wait. Tomorrow, I will come to your school and talk to that...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 28, 20232 min read


Learning to Respond to people and situations instead of reacting.
“You are not allowing me to do what I want, you are a mean mom” R1: “How can you call me mean? After I have done so much for you. I am...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 27, 20233 min read


Why you cannot be a counsellor to your spouse or family members
People who are trained as counsellors often think they can counsel anyone including their spouse, children or other family members. This...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 25, 20232 min read


Acceptance Vs Resignation
In counselling and psychology when the term acceptance is used many people think, acceptance means giving up the idea of change. They...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 23, 20232 min read


Fear/Anxiety is a contagious emotionInoculating ourselves against other people's anxieties
A bunch of monkeys are gorging on fruits in a forest tree. One of the monkeys spots something like a snake and gives a call. All the...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 22, 20232 min read


Complicated Life - Sometimes this has worked and sometimes that.
There have been times in life when being honest paid off and then there have been times when being honest hurt our interest. There have...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 21, 20232 min read


What will people think? - A snippet from a philosophical counselling session.
“My daughter wants to marry a boy who is not from our community and I am worried” “That is understandable. What exactly are you worried...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 20, 20233 min read


Phantom Pain - Experience Pain in the body but nothing wrong with the body
She experienced extraordinary pain in her left leg. She thought she had pulled a muscle or twisted a nerve or something. Some hot pack,...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 17, 20232 min read


Giving Help and Receiving Help - One is not superior to the other
There are times in our lives when we are physically okay and can assist someone else physically. Then there are days in our lives when...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 15, 20232 min read


The importance of TRUST in a relationship
“My dad said he would arrange the finance for my studies abroad. This is the second time has let me down. I don’t trust him anymore. I...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 14, 20232 min read


All divorced people are not itching to get hitched again
Those who are single in society fall into different categories. Those who never got married (either by choice or for other reasons),...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 13, 20232 min read


Grey Divorces
I don’t recall the source of the piece of statistics: The fastest-growing age group applying for divorces in Bangalore courts are those...

Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 10, 20233 min read
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