𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬.

When someone puts money into buying the shares of a company, they generally have the idea of a stop loss in their head. If I have bought something for Rs 100/- I will sell it for a loss also if it goes below 80 because I don’t want to suffer a bigger loss. I can bear a Rs 20/- loss but not more than that. The stop-loss level decided by me saves me from greater pain. It is the pain point at which I am willing to accept my losses and move on. In the same way, I can have a time-stop loss for my investment. If the stock does not move up in 90 days I will get out even if it has not hit the money-stop loss level of 80 level and time-stop loss is meant to protect our investment.

Can we use the time to stop loss in our relationships, our other ventures, and the new things that we want to try out?

“We have been living together for some time now, but I want more certainty and permanence in my relationship. I have been asking for marriage and he is going on stalling it”

“What is the reason you want more certainty?”

“I want to raise a family and I feel if there is no commitment I cannot do it. But he is going on postponing it and I am getting frustrated”

“How much time do you want to give for the decision?”

“What do you mean?”

“Are you willing to wait forever for his decision or are you going to set a deadline for the decision?”

“Is it good to set a deadline?”

“Is it good not to set a deadline? Will a decision happen if it is open?”

“I see what you mean. To me raising a family is non-negotiable. I have my biological clock ticking”

“Exactly so can you set a time stop loss for the relationship?”

That is what I mean by time stop loss in a relationship. If you have non-negotiables and you want them to happen you need to set a time stop loss for the relationship. If something does not happen at a particular point in the future, you are willing to have a relook at the relationship. You are willing to alter the nature of the relationship or even end in extreme cases, it if those are not achieving your aims. We can have a time-stop loss for our business ventures, our attempts at learning new things, attempts at writing certain exams etc. It frees us to go on to do something else instead of living in false hope endlessly.