𝐀𝐧𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐎𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐏𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞, 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐎𝐮𝐭𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬

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Before the event, we spend our days hoping for specific things. We tie our peace to a desired result, to an outcome we cannot fully control. We whisper, "𝐼 ℎ𝑜𝑝𝑒 𝐼 𝑔𝑒𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑗𝑜𝑏," or "𝐼 ℎ𝑜𝑝𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦 𝑠𝑎𝑦 𝑦𝑒𝑠." We fixate on a single version of events, a single definition of success. And when life, in its unpredictable flow, delivers another answer, we are lost. We crumble. We feel we have failed.

But what if we are wishing for the wrong thing?

The real wish, the wiser wish, is not for a specific outcome. It is for a specific state of mind. It is to wish for peace regardless of the result. It is to wish for grace no matter the answer. It is to wish for courage in the face of whatever comes.

Imagine two students before a test. One thinks, "𝐼 𝑚𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑠𝑐𝑜𝑟𝑒 90% 𝑜𝑟 𝐼 𝑎𝑚 𝑎 𝑓𝑎𝑖𝑙𝑢𝑟𝑒." Their entire world rests on a single number. The other thinks, "𝑁𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑠, 𝐼 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑐𝑎𝑙𝑚 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡𝑟𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑚𝑦 𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑝𝑎𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛." Their world rests on their own inner strength. Who is truly stronger when the result arrives?

This is the shift. This is the change that changes everything.

Instead of wishing for a specific outcome, wish for an emotional state. Instead of "𝐼 ℎ𝑜𝑝𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦 𝑑𝑜𝑛’𝑡 𝑏𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑘 𝑢𝑝 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑚𝑒," try "𝐼 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡 𝑡𝑜 ℎ𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑙𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑠 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑚𝑦 𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓-𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑐𝑡." Instead of "𝐼 𝑛𝑒𝑒𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑒 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑦," try "𝐼 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑛𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑑𝑒𝑐𝑖𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛."

This shift gives you back your power. Outcomes are external. Your mindset is your own. Your peace is your own. Your grace is your own. You cannot control the result, but you can always choose how you meet it. You can choose your state of mind.

This is the deeper wish. Wish for peace, not just for a specific outcome. Wish for the strength to meet any outcome with peace. Your emotional state is the one thing that is truly, always, yours.